What would you say if you had the opportunity to write a letter to your former self? Would you share words of wisdom? Would you warn them of things to come? Perhaps you might congratulate them on being so smart or funny.

Here is your chance to try it out! Friend Movement is extremely proud to support, “Letters To Our Former Selves, a project by Ari Andersen. We want to invite you to write your own “FRIEND LETTER” to your former self by following this link:


HAVE FUN, BE CREATIVE, and above all else BE VULNERABLE. It’s ok to to dig beneath the surface and have an authentic conversation with yourself. You’ll be amazed at how many truths will surface, what lessons you might learn, and how much more grateful you’ll become for the person you are today. After you submit your letter, we would love to hear about your experience writing the letter in the comment section below …



  1. Kenn JG
    June 19, 2014 at 9:28 pm

    The first thing I would let my former self, know is, (to quote Eleanor Roosevelt) “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”. This is one of the first quotes from an adult that I wrote down and remembered. It still reads as true today as when I was fifteen, and spent too many hours agonizing over one of my classmates calling me skinny or that my second year in a foreign language class did not immediately jump start my social life. If only we knew then, what we know now, we would never allow another individual to have that kind of influence over our emotional state. I would tell the teenage me, that being a six foot tall skinny kid, is okay, because that’s who I am and studying a foreign language was never the one thing that upped my dating factor. I would learn how to make the most of my sinewy frame and become an excellent sprinter and an amazing dancer. I would also tell my younger self that four years of that same foreign language would pay for itself, in a summer spent in a country where I understood the language and the money, and was welcomed by the locals for taking the time to speak to them in their native tongue.
    The next thing “former me” would benefit in knowing from me today is, “there is nothing unnatural in this world, only unexpected” (thank you Andre. Gide). Puberty for me (and I think for most of us) is a time when changes in our bodies and the maturation of our minds, is never quite on the same track. It seems to me that on any given day one aspect of my life was running on the express track while the other was definitely a local. I would tell that lanky teen version of me not to worry that you are the last one of your friends to have his voice change, or to start shaving. You mature when you mature and know that nature is not necessarily on your timeline. Enjoy the time you are in, because before you know it, it will be in the past.
    One more thing that the former me, should be told by ‘me’ today is, “to love what you do and feel it matters, how could anything be more fun”? As a young person I took it for granted that my Mother spent her days working as a health professional and then would come home and take care of us. My Dad would also spend his free time from work and family, giving back to the community as a local politician. They both instilled in me a sense of giving back where you can. Rewards do not always come in the form of monetary compensation, but sometimes in the form of appreciation from a family member, friend or even from a stranger. I have to say, as an adult, this resonates with me strongly. Each year I discover a new found joy in doing something that is selfless without the need for reciprocity and the reward comes in the feeling of freely giving, your time, talent and heart.
    So what things would you say to your former self?

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