Right after High School my path to figuring out who I am and what my purpose is officially began. I come from a Christian family, so most of the guidance I received came from the Bible. Because of that, throughout my journey I have had many spiritual revelations. The first big awakening that I had was about letting go. I remember completely getting rid of almost everything I owned in my room and throwing it all in the trash. That included my senior portraits, year books starting from grade school, clothes etc. At the time I honestly didn’t know what I was doing or why. It was like a force had taken over me without my consent. However, deep down inside I felt like I was doing the right thing. Even today (mostly conscious and aware FYI) I still drastically revamp, renew, or start over. Just recently I let go of a few relationships that were no longer healthy for me. Some of them I had to release physically and others emotionally.
I know it’s hard for a lot of people to let go. This is why we have shows like hoarders. Most of us hold on to people and possessions because of physical and emotional attachments. Even when we know that it’s unhealthy, we continue to cling on because we are afraid of feeling the void of letting go. And when we finally release our grip, we often replace one unhealthy habit with another. I’m guilty.
One thing I know for sure is that letting go has opened many doors and has also allowed me to continue starting fresh and new. Who wants to keep going into relationships with the same emotional baggage you picked up from the last one? This is not fair for you or the other person. I know this because when I asked my ex, “Why did you fight me so much?” He said, “Because I felt you were treating me like my ex did.” His ex treated him horribly. Mostly everything I did for him was taken in the wrong context because of old emotional baggage he’d never let go of.
I understand that life has it’s difficulties, but it does not have to be unmanageable. People leave, seasons change, and it’s all a part of life. So whatever you are holding on to, let it go. I promise that you will be better off even if it doesn’t feel like it. And whatever you do, don’t exchange one unhealthy attachment for another. What are you holding on to that you feel you can’t let go of?