While talking to my roommate she mentioned that thanks to me she now notices if someone has a bad haircut or hairstyle. I wasn’t very proud of getting credit for that and I instantly asked myself, “What does having a ‘bad’ hairstyle mean? How did I become so judgmental about other people’s choice of style?
In that split second I realized that it’s the magazines and advertisements that dictate to us what beauty is. I’m a hairstylist, so I will be the first to admit that I have a superficial idea of what ‘good’ style is. However, it’s really not my right to deter someone away from their personal style just because it doesn’t fit the image in my head. I immediately shared this revelation with my roommate. I have often scolded her about being judgemental, and there she was basically saying to me that I am teaching her how to be critical of people’s hair.
On occasion I’ve heard people say, “Did she look at herself in the mirror before leaving the house?” Perhaps she did and thought that everything was okay. Now there are some places of business that require a dress code and it’s a must to wear the appropriate attire. However, outside of that environment, people should be able to express themselves in what ever way they choose without being judged or made fun of.
I was glad to have had that moment with my roommate. It helped me to realize that I still have work to do on not being judgmental. I will commit myself to appreciating everyone’s personal style unless someone asks me for style advice. We are all the same yet so different. Isn’t it amazing that no one has the same set of fingerprints? If we could always be aware of the beauty in our uniqueness, no one would have to suffer from low self-esteem. It is only when someone tells us some ‘thing’ is bad that we develop a complex.
Remember the story of Adam and Eve? They were not ashamed of being naked until they ate of the forbidden fruit. Was it the fruit that made them feel bad about nudity? Or did the devil plant negative seeds in their minds? Whatever happened, let’s stop judging people’s personal style based on the images we have in our head. Instead, let’s celebrate diversity in Friend Movement style!